Hi, dear flist!
I know I'll only have the attention of the usual dirty dozen here :)), but I'll address the entire flist now nevertheless. I've come to the decision to make a friends cut and get rid of some corpses that have been lingering on my flist for way too long now. Those of you who come here often or at least once in a while won't notice a difference, since these people never comment at all anyhow.
You probably wonder why I feel this step is necessary, since those of you who never comment don't bother in any way. Well, that's true, but I keep wondering why you are here at all, if you are obviously not interested in the least what I've got to say or share. No matter what I've posted ever since I came here in late 2009, there are some who never ever breathed a word to anything.
So I guess you either don't care for LJ or the fandom in general or me - or all of these together. Perfectly okay. It's everybody's own decision how they want to occupy their time and if your interests changed or you feel LJ is just not for you (any longer), fine. No problem. But I'm sharing not only things on this fandom that are very dear to me, but personal stuff as well, and I don't see why I should do that if some of you never even had the decency to tell me your names or tell me anything about you for that matter.
I mean, after 1 1/2 years you might think people would have at least told you their birthday, so you can congratulate, or the country they live in or their first name. I don't want anybody's full biography and I don't expect a mile long comment to each and every post, Lord, no. Only to every other one ... LoL I just think it's not too much to ask to drop a short "Hi, I'm still here and I still look at your stuff" like every other month or so. To some of you I talk almost daily or at least once or twice a week and I've grown very fond of you peeps and you are the ones I consider *friends*. How can I consider someone a friend who keeps ignoring me and what is dear to me? Some didn't even send a short message for Christmas or New Year, which is usually the time of the year when you send messages to almost everybody even if you don't talk to them the rest of the year. :)))
I'm sorry for one or the other, because in the beginning I had such wonderful and amazing conversations with them, but then they just disappeared and I never heard from them again. That's a pity, but I guess other matters are more important there now, so that cannot be helped. Others, like I said, are still complete strangers to me and even if I addressed them directly and they promised to comment more often, that promise was the only reaction I got all year.
And then there was one of you girls who seriously commented to one of my posts only with the words I need your help - come to my LJ. And then there were like 20 questions you needed your flist to answer urgently for some school paper and you promised to finish the WIP you've been writing on for like two years in return, which was a nice idea actually. xD Well, it was a Sunday and I had other things to do, but I took like two hours of time answering all these bloody questions, so you could write your paper. - I never heard from you again after that. Not even a simple Thank you for your help. Sorry, but these are things I just can't tolerate any longer. You may ask any favor from me, but don't ever use me. I think it's common courtesy to say Thanks if you asked a favour of someone, isn't it? And, of course, that story was never finished, either. Not that anyone has expected it.
Bottomline is, some people do bother me simply for their ignorance and that's why they are out of here now. I won't even wait another day. If you got cut and want to stay, you can comment (!) on my Welcome post and I consider re-adding you, but I bet those I'm gonna cut now won't even read this post - like all the others before.
Thanks to all of you lovely peeps who bring me so much joy simply by talking to me once in a while or even on regular terms. I appreciate it!!
Take care -
~ Tariel ~